Soothing

Soothing

Soothing (or rather, difficulty in self-soothing) is a notion that comes up a lot in my work. When people report a difficulty managing emotions, where experiences like anxiety or anger come on quickly and intensely, and escalate until the point of what people often...
What day is it?

What day is it?

  What day is it?  You can’t move for days these days, many of which are ridiculous! National olive oil day, national cherries day, for example. And I recently learned that September 25this National Psychotherapy Day in the U.S. I groaned at first when I saw...
Managing difficult family dynamics.

Managing difficult family dynamics.

For many expats, the summer often means heading to your home country, or the home country of your partner, and spending time with family and friends. There’s lots about this that is wonderful of course. Picking up where you left off with people, enjoying weather and...
Fostering self-esteem no matter what

Fostering self-esteem no matter what

Do you achieve great things in life, but fundamentally lack confidence in yourself? It bothers me that self-esteem is so often gained from external factors. I often work with people who struggle with the concept that self-esteem really needs to come from within,...
Planning for becoming parents

Planning for becoming parents

In my experience of working with pregnant couples and new parents, I find that certain factors predict conflict, depression and anxiety postnatally. These clinical observations are backed up in the scientific literature. When I work with expecting or new parents, one...