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Fostering self-esteem no matter what

Do you achieve great things in life, but fundamentally lack confidence in yourself? It bothers me that self-esteem is so often gained from external factors. I often work with people who struggle with the concept that self-esteem really needs to come from within,...

Planning for becoming parents

In my experience of working with pregnant couples and new parents, I find that certain factors predict conflict, depression and anxiety postnatally. These clinical observations are backed up in the scientific literature. When I work with expecting or new parents, one...

Recognising and Managing Anger

Anger is a normal emotion that serves an important function. However, when its underlying causes are not fully understood, and it's not well managed, you might find anger negatively impacts your relationships and functioning.  What is anger? You may have a good idea...

Our Musings

Many of us face challenges with our mental health, keeping us from being our best selves.  Treatment isn’t always required. This blog is dedicated to the notion that many of us can respond to those challenges with just the slightest degree of guidance and support. While we at Vivamus specialise in providing psychological support for a range of mental health issues, this blog is dedicated to helping you rise to your own particular challenges. 

Planning for becoming parents

Certain factors predict conflict, depression and anxiety postnatally. Talking about these topics ahead of time can reduce the likelihood of postnatal depression

Recognising and Managing Anger

We need anger in our lives. Being angry is a signal that we need to assert ourselves. It’s important to communicate our anger in ways that are not aggressive.

Coping with bullying

What is bullying? I get asked this question a lot from parents and young people and when I ask the same question back each person has their own definition. These definitions range from ‘any name calling or teasing’ to ‘anything physical from one child to another’ or...

Coping at Christmas

Christmas isn't always easy. Sometimes family dynamics can come to the fore, making the festive period particularly challenging. Perhaps you're coping with loss at Christmas. Or perhaps it is the volume of things to be done and expectation you're finding challenging....

When should I see a Psychologist or Counselor?

 Why now? One of the first questions I ask people who come to see me at their first appointment, is “why now?”. Often people struggle for a long time before they seek professional support. And sometimes there is a clear event that leads people to make an appointment....

Who is the best psychologist in Dubai?

Who is the Best Psychologist in Dubai? Who is the Best Counselor in Dubai? It's always interesting to me to think what people type into Google when they are looking for psychological support. Assuming they have reached the point that would like some assistance, do...

Self-criticism: why we do it and how not to

Like many aspects of our seemingly irrational selves, the basis can often make perfect sense. Self-criticism and self-blame are at the heart of many of our negative thoughts and have an impact on self-esteem and in turn our ability to tackle challenges and setbacks...

The importance of soft toys

  If you've ever wondered why children form such a strong attachment to soft toys, psychologists can shed light on this universal phenomenon. In a nutshell, creating and later internalising a compassionate other helps us tackle relationship and life challenges as...

Uncertainty and Worrying Well

As life marches on, we often experience much change and uncertainty, especially in a transient city such as Dubai. Tolerating uncertainty and frequent change can be challenging. I share below the biological reasons we find uncertainty difficult and I offer some...

Just as you are

  A very happy and healthy 2018 to you and your family. I love new year. I don’t like the crowds and the fuss and the hoo ha, and I loathe new year resolutions. But I do love to reflect on the year that’s gone and to feel grateful for the people I cherish, and to...

Coping with grief at Christmas

Big festivals without loved ones can be really painful... Especially at first. I’m hoping the following tips might help you deal with Christmas when someone's missing. Manage your expectations. Don’t expect Christmas to be the same; it will be different. Change things...

Different birth plans please.

Hmm, I’m not sure I like birth plans... I’m all for planning, and I’m a big fan of thinking through a situation and imagining how you might respond in various scenarios. This is an excellent coping strategy for anticipating an event and gaining confidence in one’s own...

Coping with PTSD symptoms

Dealing with PTSD symptoms yourself The main factor that keeps PTSD symptoms going is avoiding thinking about the event. It’s entirely understandable that people should not want to think about what happened. It’s unpleasant, can be terrifying and can lead to symptoms...

Does time heal?

Sometimes. In fact, in most cases, the brain can make sense of the event itself, assimilating the event with pre-existing experiences and making sense of what happened. This is why professionals do not diagnose PTSD within the first 4 weeks of the trauma....

Abnormal Events

Normal responses to an abnormal event: When a traumatic event occurs, a certain set of responses tend to follow. Avoidance Firstly, you may find yourself avoiding reminders of the event. This could include avoiding certain people or places and trying not to think...

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